happy even after course with katherine woodward thomas

Your Painful Breakup Doesn’t Need to Ruin Your Life,
Damage Your Kids or Define Your Future.

In Fact, Your Breakup Can Be Loving, Kind, Generous,
Respectful and Healing for Yourself and All Involved.

Romantic love comes with a promise.

That it will last…

That it will always be a safe haven…

That you will never again be lonely, lost or afraid.

And when those promises are broken, well…

The pain can be unbearable.

It can feel as though it is the end of the world…

As though you will never again know true love, or experience any real happiness in life after this devastating disappointment.

If you’ve ever found yourself curled up in a fetal position for days on end, curtains drawn, emails unanswered, and moving only to blow your nose and wipe the tears from your face . . . you are not alone.

Breakups can be a nightmare and make even the strongest of us want to pull the covers over our heads and disconnect from everyone and everything for days on end.

We can even lose the motivation to do basic self-care, like take a shower, put on some clean clothes and get some good, healthy food into our bodies.

Even after the initial shock, when you’re able to return to normal functioning, you may still be consumed with an intense depression, anger or hurt that can make you want to lash out to hurt the one who hurt you (even if you’re normally a thoughtful, loving person).

You might find yourself wondering how you’re ever going to get yourself (and your children if you have them) to the other side of this overwhelmingly painful and confusing time.

And in the midst of such suffering, you may feel desperate to just survive this experience, hoping against all odds that time will somehow heal your broken heart.

Yet there’s a way for you to be powerfully proactive in restoring your heart to wholeness, and to do so much more than simply survive…

It’s possible to move through the loss of a romantic relationship in a way that is deeply kind, contained and caring, so that no one is left shattered or destroyed by the experience – yourself included.

Most of us would aspire to an amicable ending that offers ourselves and others a soft place to land. Yet we all know that most breakups are incredibly angry, hostile experiences that are filled with a tremendous amount of animosity.

The intense feelings that can come up before, during and after a breakup can be really hard to manage without getting ourselves into trouble . . . where in spite of our best intentions, we wind up behaving in ways we’re likely to regret later on.

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Big rage, big hurt, big hopelessness, big powerlessness and/or a big desire for revenge can overwhelm us and cause us (and our former partners) to act in ways that are completely outside of who we want to be, and the image we have of ourselves as a good, fair and decent people.

Too often, hurt people hurt people.

In the midst of these tidal waves of overwhelming emotions, you can suddenly find yourself out of control, saying all sorts of horrible, undermining and nasty things that you never thought you’d say, and doing and all sorts of heinous, monstrous things you never thought you’d do.


It doesn’t have to be this way!

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Never before have we had as much self-awareness and emotional intelligence as our generation does.

And while we’re still clearly capable of behaving in unconscious, primitive and destructive ways, there are also millions of us waking up to the possibility of finding a new way… millions of us willing to discover a more conscious, caring and evolved pathway of completion for the end of a primary relationship.

Some of us witnessed the deeply destructive and barbaric ways our own parents parted ways . . . unconsciously uncoupling in ways that did great harm to themselves, each other, and to us (often leaving us with psychic wounds that may have taken decades to heal.)

Yet in the midst of our own pain, confusion and overwhelm, the one thing we may know for sure is that we don’t want to do that to ourselves, to our former partner and certainly not to our children (if we have them.)

We live in a time when more people will separate or divorce this year than buy a new car or eat grapefruit for breakfast, and we’re ready to learn how to break up better.


That’s why world-renowned relationship expert, licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and New York Times Bestselling Author of Conscious Uncoupling, Katherine Woodward Thomas, created The Happy Even After Course: The 5 Steps of Conscious Uncoupling, an online journey to guide anyone who is struggling through a breakup, on the brink of a breakup or still suffering from the unresolved grief from a past breakup, through a proven, step-by-step process for how to complete a romantic union – not just amicably, but consciously – in a way that leaves all involved healthy, whole, and free to love and be loved again moving forward.

We would all love to bring our relationships to conscious completion, where the love that was shared is both honored and protected rather than destroyed, and where everyone impacted by the separation is left enhanced, and not diminished, by the way the relationship ended.

The Happy Even After Course will empower you – with or without the cooperation and support of your former partner, and no matter how challenging the circumstances are surrounding your breakup – to navigate the end of your relationship with grace, dignity and goodwill as well as profound levels of healing and heart-repair.

Plus . . .

Katherine’s Groundbreaking 5-Step Conscious Uncoupling Process Makes It Possible to Overcome Breakup Grief and Use it to Transform and Enrich Your Entire Life

katherine-conscious-uncoupling-111As a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas has seen many people in excruciating pain as they grapple with the unspeakable grief of lost love. She’s witnessed families torn apart by the bitter nastiness that is all too characteristic of so many breakups.

And she’s met with people whose hearts have been held captive with unresolved and prolonged grief from a past breakup – so much so that they were unwilling or unable to move past that trauma and open themselves up to love and be loved again.

Katherine’s 5-Step Conscious Uncoupling process skyrocketed to international attention when actress Gwyneth Paltrow and her former husband, Chris Martin, used her term to announce their divorce. Katherine’s work had influenced this couple to set an intention to breakup in a holistically healthy way, and they were able to consciously and gracefully complete their marriage while keeping their family intact.

Because of their modeling, the Conscious Uncoupling process has now influenced millions of people around the globe, and is a pioneering voice towards more conscious and respectful breakups worldwide.

And…this miraculous process will work whether you go through it it alone, or if do it with your former partner.

Now, for the first time ever, in her all-new Happy Even After Course: The 5 Steps of Conscious Uncoupling, Katherine Woodward Thomas will personally guide you through this revolutionary, step-by-step process so that you too can consciously complete your relationship and avoid the antagonistic ways of breaking up that most of us have come to accept as the norm—and so that you are free to move forward to live a fuller, richer and happier life on the other side of this.

Here’s how it works . . .

In just 6 power-packed weeks and under the deeply supportive, expert guidance of world-renowned licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas, and her hand-picked team of Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coaches, you’ll discover how to:

  • Protect yourself (and your children if you have them) from further harm – by learning to navigate your breakup with dignity, honor and respect, with or without your former partner’s cooperation.
  • Wake up to your worthiness to love and be loved – even if the person you love is not loving you back in the ways you need them to.
  • Come to a place of deep inner peace – by resolving your unresolved grief, resentment, guilt, shame, anger or hurt.
  • Use your heartache to graduate you from any painful, recurring relational patterns – and trust in the possibilities you hold for health, happiness and well-being in love moving forward.
  • Discover the one essential tool that will disappear obsessive resentment and rage – so you come to a place of true freedom and completion within your heart.
  • Restore deep confidence in yourself – knowing you will never, ever again make the same mistakes.
  • Awaken to the possibilities you now hold for true happiness in love – by integrating all you’ve learned and discovering authentic forgiveness for yourself and others.

Here’s What People Who’ve Used
the Conscious Uncoupling  Process Say About How It Radically Altered Their Breakup Experience

Julia’s Story:

“I was 4 months into the breakup process prior to beginning the Conscious Uncoupling program, and during that time I suffered from deep depression. I couldn’t get out of bed for days at a time and lost 25 pounds because I could barely eat anything. My whole body ached from the emotional stress, and I felt frail and vulnerable. After completing the first step in the process, I could feel the extreme tension in my body begin to dissolve as I took responsibility for my role in the breakup. I learned how to transform my heartbreak into a catalyst for making an unwavering commitment to myself. Following the steps in the Conscious Uncoupling program, I transformed from my deepest breakdown to my most magnificent breakthrough. I now feel free, liberated and full of hope for a beautiful future in love!”

Val’s Story:

“After my partner of 9 years moved out, I felt very unstable in my day-to-day life because there was a tempest of anger, fear and grief raging inside me. Moving effectively through all the strong emotions to get to the healing I desperately needed felt impossible. Thankfully, when I began the Conscious Uncoupling program, I quickly learned how to harness my emotions and use them to propel me to a new mindset of curiosity about how much more fulfilled my life could be.”

Neil’s Story:

“It was a really dark time after a somewhat unexpected breakup that led me to Conscious Uncoupling and Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work. It seemed that my girlfriend and I were in a cycle that just kept repeating itself, and at the time, I felt powerless to change any of that. Going through the steps of Conscious Uncoupling was an experience that taught me so much about myself, and gave me not only the ability to see my part in how it all had transpired, but also the power to heal and shift the things within me that were largely responsible for the breakup. It also helped to restore an inner sense of peace – that I was going to be ‘OK’ no matter what.

With my own inner work (and some patience) my girlfriend and I were able to repair what was broken between us – and, years later, we are now engaged, building a life together, and creating programs to help other couples thrive in love. Conscious Uncoupling works!”

The Happy Even After Course:
The 5 Steps of Conscious Uncoupling

A Week-by-Week Course Overview

Here’s a closer look at everything we’ll cover in just 6 weeks:


The Principles and Practices of Conscious Uncoupling

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    Understand the antiquated origins of breakup shame and be liberated from toxic feelings of inferiority, humiliation and social embarrassment.

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    Discover why breakups are so hard on the heart, and the critical keys to turning the worst thing that ever happened to you into the absolute best.

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    Learn how to break up better – to leave you and those you love free to move forward with open and fully healed hearts.

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    Be released from the tyranny of breakup pain and catch the glimmer of light that awaits you at the end of this tunnel.


Find Emotional Freedom

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    Assess your level of breakup trauma and learn the critical self-care practices that will set your heart up to heal better than before.

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    Learn to use the intensity of your negative emotions as the fuel you’ll need to create unprecedented positive change in your life.

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    Awaken to your breakup as a life-altering opportunity to “break your heart open” to transform your disappointing and destructive patterns in love at the deepest level.

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    Initiate your wholehearted recovery by setting a powerful intention to make something beautiful of this experience.


Reclaim Your Power & Your Life

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    Be released from obsessive thinking and victimization, and start crafting a breakup narrative that feeds you power and restores you to wholeness.

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    Identify all of the covert and subtle ways you’ve been giving your power away, and start showing up in ways that are reflective of the truth of your value.

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    Make amends to yourself in ways that free you up from festering resentment, and begin to feel confident you will never make these same mistakes again.

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    Evolve beyond the person you were when you created your relationship, and discover how to trust yourself to love and be loved moving forward.


Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart

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    Learn the life-altering, 5-point process for breaking free of old patterns and beliefs that have kept you unfulfilled and disappointed in love and discover the secrets to evolve beyond them.

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    Have an embodied experience of awakening to the new you – the “true you” – and fall deeply in love with yourself as the rock-solid foundation for loving others from now on.

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    Repair the insult to your identity that a breakup represents and awaken to your worthiness to love and be loved regardless of how your former partner is treating you.

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    Become clear about the specific skills and capacities you’ll now need to develop to ensure more satisfying and fulfilling relationships in your future.


Become a Love Alchemist

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    Set a potent intention for a positive future that will serve as your North Star to help guide your steps moving forward and support you as you navigate your breakup with vision and integrity.

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    Release any toxic emotional residue with your former partner and discover the secret to miraculously clear the air between you.

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    Discover how to forgive the unforgivable and move forward in life resentment-free, ready to recreate a more beautiful life for yourself than you ever had before.

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    Awaken to the art of “golden repair” and begin weaving a bright, new, and empowering future for all into existence.


Create Your Happy Even After Life

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    Clarify and complete the old agreements you shared with your former partner, and create new ones that will liberate you to be deeply happy in life moving forward.

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    Learn how to deal with and discuss your breakup with family and friends in respectful and life-affirming ways.

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    Create new structures, rituals and routines that will liberate everyone to flourish and thrive in life and love moving forward.

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    Experience a magical Conscious Uncoupling ritual that can liberate and empower you, your former partner and everyone involved to move forward with loving and conscious completion.

Course Materials and Resources

When you register, you’ll receive everything you need to
take full advantage of the course, including:

  • 6 Monday 90-Minute Live Online Classrooms with Katherine – where you’ll be guided through every step of Conscious Uncoupling in an interactive live classroom environment.
  • 6 Saturday 90-minute Live Coaching Calls with Katherine – so you can receive coaching and support from Katherine as you move through this life-altering and highly healing and transformative program.
  • 6 optional Monday 30-minute Community Engagement Sessions – where you will be invited to meet with your fellow course participants for a community discussion after each Live Classroom with Katherine, under the guidance of Katherine and/or a Sr. Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coach.
  • Exclusive access to a 24/7 Online Learning Community – so you can share about your growth and transformation with others on similar paths, gain new resources, be witnessed in your healing journey and get your questions answered between classrooms in our Ask Katherine & The Coaches thread.
  • 12 optional 60 Minute Live Coaching Calls with Sr. Conscious Uncoupling Coaches – twice a week, our team of Sr. Certified Conscious Uncoupling Coaches will provide live, interactive Recreate Your Life Support Circles to help integrate the learning of the week.
  • Daily Heal Your Heart Emails – offering a daily recorded message from Katherine, along with integrative practices and reflection questions specifically designed to help you deepen into each week’s material. These emails will arrive in your inbox each day between classroom sessions to support your heart to fully heal.
  • Downloadable Transcripts for Each Classroom – so you can reference these powerful teachings again and again.

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Note: Uncoupling couples must register both parties at the same time, using two unique names and email addresses. Before the course begins, you will each receive an audio entitled How to Separate Together: The Keys for Couples who are Committed to Uncoupling Consciously in your email inboxes. This audio will provide an overview of how to best navigate the course as a couple who is uncoupling.

Register and Receive Lifetime Access to the Entire Conscious Uncoupling Summit: How to Heal From Heartbreak, Be Free to Forgive and Find Your Way Home to Love Event Featuring Katherine and 14 relationship, grief and healing experts AT NO ADDITIONAL CHARGE ($349 value expires Wednesday, February 22nd at midnight PT).

Featuring These Experts and Topics:
  • David Kessler – You Can Heal Your Heart
  • Christine Arylo – Self-Care Tips to Get You Through the Trauma
  • Melanie Tonia Evans – How to Thrive After Breaking Up with a Narcissist
  • Daphne Rose Kingma – Using Rituals to Recover from a Break Up
  • Janet Attwood – Personal Conscious Uncoupling Story
  • Margaret Paul – Loving Yourself When Someone Else Can’t or Won’t
  • Tammy Nelson – Healing the Trust Wound After Infidelity
  • Debra Poneman – Personal Conscious Uncoupling Story
  • Susan Stiffelman – Best Strategies for Co-Parenting with a Difficult Partner
  • Michelle Crosby – Untying the Knot: Legalizing the Loss of Love with Respect & Grace
  • Marianne Williamson – On Forgiving the Unforgivable
  • Rosalind Sedecca – How to Empower the Kids Both Young & Old to Adjust to the Breakup
  • Mary Morrissey – Personal Conscious Uncoupling Story
  • Susan Elliott – The Keys to Getting Back Out There

Our More-than-Money-Back Satisfaction Guarantee

You can register for The Happy Ever After Course at no risk to you! If within 21 days of the start of the course you decide that you want your money back, just email us at Support@ConsciousUncoupling.com, and we will issue you a refund immediately, no questions asked. You’ll even get to keep the bonuses you received, making it a More-than-Money-Back Satisfaction Guarantee!

And this policy is good for us too, because we want your attention freed up from having to worry if the course and your investment is right for you so that you can concentrate fully on healing your heart, reclaiming your power and learning to live happily even after.

A Limited-Time Early Registration
Incentive Package Valued at $291

When you register before midnight, it helps as we plan our resources to know how many course participants we’ll have, we’re offering an early registration incentive package for a limited time only.

If you register before Midnight Pacific Time
on Tuesday, February 7th you’ll receive
The Self-Care Miracle Cures Collection.

This package includes 3 powerful resources to support you in nourishing your mind, body and spirit as you navigate the road to health and happiness.

Self-Care Resource #1

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Grief Yoga
with Renowned
Yoga Teacher
Paul Denniston

Move the grief out of your body using ancient and highly transformative yoga techniques.

Self-Care Resource #2

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Liberate Your Heart
with Tapping! with NY Times Bestselling Author of
The Tapping Solution,

Nick Ortner

Learn how to tap your way to emotional freedom and hope.

Self-Care Resource #3


Meditations to Heal Heartbreak with NY Times Bestselling Author
of Mind Over Medicine,
Dr. Lissa Rankin

Discover the power of meditation to release your pain, renew your mind & revive your spirit.

These three resources have a combined value of $291 and you’ll receive them at no additional charge when you register for Happy Even After by Midnight Pacific Time on Tuesday, February 7th.

Commonly Asked Questions about The Happy Even After Course

The course is highly transformative (as opposed to informational) in nature. Your learning will be experiential as you begin to see clearly how you may have contributed to the breakdowns that happened in your relationship in ways that liberate and empower you to graduate from those painful patterns forever so that you can create happier and healthier experiences moving forward.

You will also learn how to properly heal from your breakup in a way that frees you from the needless suffering of prolonged grief, and that will leave you and all those involved free to move forward with an open and fully healed heart.

Often, just the act of registering for the course will begin to bring a sense of comfort and relief to you. You have taken positive action on your own behalf, and on behalf of your children if you have them.

The actual program, however, will include 6 live 90-minute classrooms each Monday with Katherine, 6 live 90-minute coaching calls with Katherine, as well as 15 minutes a day between classrooms to integrate the principles and practices of the week with the daily Heal Your Heart emails we will send you.

Of course, there is always more you can do if you have the time and are inspired to do so. You could read the Conscious Uncoupling book along with your program. You can also participate in the optional weekly 30-minute live Community Engagement calls that take place after each Monday course sessions. You could attend one or both of the optional live 60-minute Reclaim Your Life Support Coaching Calls with our Senior Conscious Uncoupling Coaches, and/or even engage with our Conscious Uncoupling Coaches in our online healing community by asking questions and receiving coaching support as you move through your course.

We provide this level of support so that if you’re experiencing acute suffering, you will feel our presence with you at all times, so that you are not alone going through your healing journey.

The book hit the New York Times Bestseller list in the Fall of 2015.  And while reading the book alone can be a highly transformative experience, it is no substitute for the actual live course. The book does include much of what we will be covering in the Happy Even After Course yet the live course also includes a tremendous amount of personalized support and guidance that is not possible to offer in a book, as well as new and emerging healing techniques not included in the book.
Conscious Uncoupling is growing and up-leveling every day! There is so much Katherine learned while writing her New York Times Bestseller, Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, as well as new emerging distinctions that were not available back in 2010 when the old course was created; brand new distinctions that are emerging in attachment theory, the biology of breakups and what happens in the body when our hearts are hurting.

Most importantly, though, are the latest findings on what truly heals a broken heart. Because of this, Katherine felt compelled to create the new online course to accommodate all that she has been discovering about healing from heartbreak.

The new up-leveled course will also be delivered in a more user friendly format of daily doses of wisdom and guidance to help you integrate and engage the material in a way more organic to the rhythms of your already busy life.

If you’ve taken the course in its old format, you are more than welcomed here as you will find new and refreshing perspectives and leading edge information that will support you to go even further in your capacity to complete old painful patterns and become liberated to create happier, healthier experiences of love moving forward.

If you are a graduate of the old course, email us at Support@ConsciousUncoupling.com to let us know you’re interested in joining us again, and to claim a special gift we have to welcome you back.

While the highly publicized conscious uncoupling of Gwyneth and Chris demonstrated how great it is to do the program as a couple who is uncoupling together, the truth is that most people do it alone and without the cooperation or support of their former partner.

It only takes one person to have a conscious uncoupling.

Even if you and your former partner are at odds, or if you are choosing to never again even see your former partner again, there is an internal process you must undergo to truly be free moving forward. The course will support YOU to be free within yourself so that you are no longer carrying baggage related to this breakup moving forward and you will feel confident in your ability to create happier, healthier experiences of love in your future.

We do, however, offer special low registrations rates and audio instructions for those who wish to register with their former partner to go through the process together. (See registration section to find out more.)

Often people do re-couple as a result of taking this course.

Even if you’re not sure what the future holds, the one thing you do know is this: that the old relationship that was unstable or where one or both of you was unhappy needs to end, and a new happier one must be born in its place.

If you are hoping to get back with your partner, this course will help you see your part clearly in what happened, and give you the power to dissolve the emotional residue and resentment between you and radically change the dynamic between you.

However, we do suggest that you not take the course with the sole intention of getting your partner back. You are here to heal, to understand your part in what happened so you can evolve and be free to do things differently from now on, and to do your best to move forward with a soft, clear and forgiving heart.

Many people who are on the fence and feel stuck in their current relationship take the course as a way of moving things forward in one direction or the other.

You will learn so much about where you yourself have been unconsciously holding back, feeling victimized and disempowered, and perhaps even repeating painful patterns from your childhood with your current partner—that you can easily locate your power and radically shift how you’re showing up in your current relationship while taking this course.

If you are not sure whether to stay or to go, you are welcomed to take this course as a way to gain the clarity you need to make a wise decision, as well as the skills you’ll need to implement it.

You can register for the course at no risk to you! If within 21 days of the start of the course, you decide that you want your money back, just email us at Support@ConsciousUncoupling.com and we will issue you a refund immediately, no questions asked! You’ll even get to keep the bonuses you received, making it a More-Than-Money-Back-Guarantee!

And this policy is good for us too, because we want your attentions freed up from having to worry about money so that you can concentrate fully on healing your heart and recreating your life more beautiful than it was before.

Register and Receive Lifetime Access to the Entire Conscious Uncoupling Summit: How to Heal From Heartbreak, Be Free to Forgive and Find Your Way Home to Love Event Featuring Katherine and 14 relationship, grief and healing experts AT NO ADDITIONAL CHARGE ($349 value expires Tuesday, February 21st).

Featuring These Experts and Topics:
  • David Kessler – You Can Heal Your Heart
  • Christine Arylo – Self-Care Tips to Get You Through the Trauma
  • Melanie Tonia Evans – How to Thrive After Breaking Up with a Narcissist
  • Daphne Rose Kingma – Using Rituals to Recover from a Break Up
  • Janet Attwood – Personal Conscious Uncoupling Story
  • Margaret Paul – Loving Yourself When Someone Else Can’t or Won’t
  • Tammy Nelson – Healing the Trust Wound After Infidelity
  • Debra Poneman – Personal Conscious Uncoupling Story
  • Susan Stiffelman – Best Strategies for Co-Parenting with a Difficult Partner
  • Michelle Crosby – Untying the Knot: Legalizing the Loss of Love with Respect & Grace
  • Marianne Williamson – On Forgiving the Unforgivable
  • Rosalind Sedecca – How to Empower the Kids Both Young & Old to Adjust to the Breakup
  • Mary Morrissey – Personal Conscious Uncoupling Story
  • Susan Elliott – The Keys to Getting Back Out There

Here’s What the World’s Foremost Experts in Love, Relationships, Grief and Healing Are Saying About Katherine Woodward Thomas and the Conscious Uncoupling Process

“Katherine Woodward Thomas brings a gentle but fiercely powerful approach to what can otherwise be such a painful experience. Through Conscious Uncoupling, we can transform the deepest disappointment into a sacred journey from sorrow to peace.”

—Marianne Williamson,
New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love

“Conscious Uncoupling is a kind and compassionate guide on how to overcome breakup grief and use it to transform and enrich your entire life. The process Katherine Woodward Thomas provides will not only help make your heart whole again, but will also ensure a positive, hopeful future for all involved.” 

—John Gray, New York Times bestselling author
of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

“Katherine Woodward Thomas is my relationship guru. Her wisdom and guidance helped me clear all blocks to romantic freedom. Conscious Uncoupling will help you embrace the true meaning of forgiveness and restore your faith in love.”

—Gabrielle Bernstein,
New York Times bestselling author of Miracles Now

“Katherine Woodward Thomas is a master teacher and one of the great pioneers who is offering new perspectives, skills and tools that will lead us into the depths of authentic loving, and to the true potency and power of relationship.”

—Dr. Jean Houston, prolific writer and author of 27 books including A Mythic Life: Learning to Live Our Greater Story and The Wizard of Us: Transformational Lessons From Oz

Our Happy Even After Story

As told by Katherine Woodward Thomas

Author Katherine Woodward Thomas with her former husband, Mark Thomas and their daughter, Alexandria three years after their divorce

When I first realized my ten-year marriage was ending, I was terrified. As a young girl I had been the product of a nasty and terribly unconscious uncoupling and the one thing I knew for sure was this: I was not going to do that to our daughter!

Yet, as our separation unfolded, I saw that I’d worried in vain. For not only was ours a kind uncoupling, but it was also filled with an unexpected spirit of generosity and goodwill, with gestures of friendship and mutual support woven throughout.

As much as I had yearned for a happy ending to my rather challenging childhood, in an odd twist of fate, I seemed to have stumbled upon a new kind of happy ending. A way to end a romantic union with dignity, goodness and honor, and where no one was left shamed or destroyed by the experience.

Once through it ourselves, I looked to see if I could decipher the rather unique way my former husband and I had transitioned out of our union. That inquiry led me to create the five steps of Conscious Uncoupling that could be engaged either by individuals going through a breakup, or by uncoupling couples to help them end their unions with dignity, generosity and grace.

As a believer in love, and an ardent supporter of long-term committed unions, I encourage couples to do everything they can to make it work before engaging a Conscious Uncoupling process.

Yet, when it becomes clear that a breakup is inevitable, I strongly suggest doing the program. Because in a world where more people divorce each year than buy new cars or eat grapefruit for breakfast, I think it’s time we learn how to do this better.

To your happiness in life and in love,

©2017 Conscious Uncoupling | Katherine Woodward Thomas